We’ve all had it happen. That intense bubble waiting to burst out. The seconds ticking by as you try to tell yourself to keep it in. But no. Before you know it, you’ve either said something you really shouldn’t have or you’ve had a melt down in the middle of a crowded place. I know. It’s happened to me. I’m not the most emotional person except for when I am. I react more toward anger than I do sadness, and it’s gotten me in situations that I wish I could take back. Luckily, throughout my experiences and related embarrassing reactions, I’ve learned to keep the word vomit in check in 5 ways:
Turn Off Your Phone
It’s really easy to hide behind a phone and send messages you’ll later regret. Maybe you’ve just broken up with someone and are super tempted to text them when you know you shouldn’t, maybe something a friend said bothered you and you want to confront them even though it’s better to do so in person, maybe you’re itching to pick a fight with someone who you feel has wronged you… whatever the case, let’s take time to think and turn the phone off. Venting your emotions recklessly over the phone is never the answer unless it’s to vent to someone you trust and who has your best interests at heart. Texting someone out of anger or sadness is tactless. Just don’t do it. Wait until you see them, or better yet, call and set up a meeting. That way there’ll be no mixed signals, you’ll have buffer time to really think through what you want to say, and hopefully, you’ll feel better once you’ve said your piece.
Take a Nap
When I’m in a bad mood or have had a bad day, there is one thing that fixes all: Sleep. I could be at my angriest or saddest, but when I wake up from sleep, I often wonder why I was so angry or upset in the first place. I don’t know what the science behind this is or if there is any, but I know it works for me. Anybody else in the same boat?
Go Eat Something
It’s easier to feel angry or upset when you’re on an empty stomach. So if you’re starting to feel negative emotions, grab something to eat. It doesn’t have to be a full meal, but once you’ve got something in you, more than likely, you’ll also start to wonder why you were feeling so bad to begin with.
Vent to Someone You Trust
Some feelings require a shoulder to cry on. This is perfectly fine and there’s no shame in asking for help. It’s okay to not be okay. Telling someone you trust what you’re going through can help lift the burden off your shoulders. As long as they give the proper emotional support and have your best interests in mind, this is another to calm down enough to think things through. Just make sure you let them know that you just want them to listen. Some people are inclined to give advice and unless that’s what you want, make sure you’re clear about what you need from them.
Write Your Feelings Down
When feelings get so intense and you’re tempted to say something you may later regret, do your best to shut up and just write it down. Writing your feelings down is another way to calmly sort your thoughts properly. Read what you’ve written down and evaluate upon whether something has to be said or if you’re just overreacting. If something does have to be said, do so with tact.
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